I've been at my new living quarters just over two months, and I'm still struggling to adjust, meet people, and learn to be happy in these new surroundings. At a recent writing group, we wrote to a quote from the novel, Anna Karenina, about happiness: Happy families are all alike. An unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. I decided to expand on that a bit. Here's what I wrote: With due respect to Anna Karenina, I think unhappy people are unhappy in their own way as well. Except that we create our own unhappiness. We cannot blame others for how we feel. "Only if we accept what is, can we be happy" – according to the est training book of aphorisms. So I get up every morning now thinking this day will be better, this day I’ll feel happy, and for sure by the end of the day, I’m disappointed. It was a day like all the rest. Lonesome, uninteresting, unexciting. Maybe it’s because the place where I now live has shut all group activities down. People can’t eat together, have group … [Read more...]
Thoughts about the est training forty years later
In 1976 I participated in the Erhard Seminars Training (est), an organization, founded by Werner H. Erhard, that, according to Wikipedia, offered a two-weekend (60-hour) course known officially as the est Standard Training. The purpose of est was ˜to transform one's ability to experience living so that the situations one had been trying to change or had been putting up with, clear up just in the process of life itself.' The est training was offered from late 1971 to late 1984. Est, the Wiki says, focused on transformation and taking responsibility for one's life. As a parting memento, we received a little brown-covered book of aphorisms that pretty much summed up what we learned in that training. One aphorism that has stayed with me over the last forty years is: If you keep your agreements your life will work. Since that time, keeping agreements has been the way I live my life, and I find myself very impatient with those who don't keep theirs. So it was no surprise that … [Read more...]
Keeping agreements
True confessions: in the mid 1970s I spent two weekends at the Los Angeles Convention Center in a room with hundreds of people taking the est Training. It was the thing to do in those days. And over the next decade, over a million people like me resonated with Werner Erhard's philosophy of transformation, personal responsibility, accountability, and possibility. We left the room at the end of the fourth day, feeling very much like we Got It. And now, in 2012, I still feel that way. I always think of est when I say to someone or myself to go for it. est espoused the notions of going for it more than 100 per cent, living on the high road, and riding the horse in the direction it is going. Such simple concepts, made so clear and meaningful in four short days. The most important aphorism of the training for me was: If you keep your agreements your life will work because if you do, you don't have to squirm, equivocate, think up lame excuses. You've kept your agreement and now … [Read more...]