Mindful Dementia Care is an important book

It is so nice to share Mindful Dementia Care: Lost and Found in the Alzheimer’s Forest, a very important book by Ruth Dennis, Velma Arellano, and Luke Nachtrab, with my Choices readers while it’s on WOW! Women on Writing‘s virtual book tour. I’ve written a review, shown below. But first I’ll post a little information about the book, which we all should know about no matter what stage of life we’re in.

Mindful Dementia Care is a book of stories and a book of love. It is a book without denial, without any papering over of the challenges that can be involved with being a caregiver, and the sadness, anger, and frustration they may bring. It is also a life-changing source of information that can revolutionize relationships with one of the most vulnerable populations in our midst. In her decades as a caregiver, Ruth Dennis witnessed the tragic results of the medicalized and institutionalized way of caring for people with dementia. And equally clearly, she saw a better way. Mindful Dementia Care illustrates alternative methods for making a difference and achieving results through care that honors the whole person. The key is creating an environment with countless enriching touchstones to the inner person through facilities that are filled with art, animal companions, music, dance, books, laughter, and wholesome food. It is an approach that embraces creative and artistic processes to shape a more loving, spiritual approach for elders and their families.

Print Length: 142 pages
Publisher: Golden Word Books (February 19, 2019)
Publication Date: February 19, 2019
ASIN: B07NXV95TT

My review of Mindful Dementia Care

When I decided to read Ruth Dennis’ book, Mindful Dementia Care, I didn’t realize how caught up with it I would become. I think the reason for that is that I am an elder myself. I turn seventy-nine this month. As Dennis described the elders she cares for I kept looking for signs that I was on my way to dementia myself. Reading Mindful Dementia Care was both scary and revealing.

Thankfully, I am “still very sharp,” as my younger sister says, and very fit, but I am convinced that mindful and loving caregiving is essential in the care of elders with dementia.

Dennis emphasizes the words care and love and beautifully describes the work caregivers perform as they care for the people with dementia. She also shares beautiful stories about these very loving people – her interactions with them and their interactions with each other. One, at her last breath, told Dennis, “I love you, in a clear and strong voice, and then she died. Another climbed into bed next to her dear friend and snuggled her in a silent loving way.

Dennis also provides a clear argument that people with dementia should go into assisted living situations. There caregivers are trained and plentiful. I know, should my husband ever need such care, I would not be up to it. The tasks involved in such care, meticulously described in the book would be too daunting. And even through all that, the caregivers at such facilities still perform their duties like loving friends. Dennis says:

“All good caregiving is about falling in love. This love is not some overly sweet, simplistic, always-joyful state; it is a much harder, more honest, more unpredictable, and far more real love. Good caregiving has to be realistic. Good caregiving has to love the scary, sad, and unlovable parts of dementia. Good caregiving also has to be open enough to see the creative, kind, and funny parts of dementia.”

I recommend this insightful, realistic, honest, and beautifully written book to all people in the throes of caring for someone with dementia in their lives or even if you’re like me, wondering if you might be nearing dementia yourself.

About the Authors:

Ruth Dennis: In her decades as a caregiver, Ruth Dennis witnessed the tragic results of the medicalized and institutionalized way of caring for people with dementia. And equally clearly, she saw a better way. Mindful Dementia Care illustrates alternative methods for making a difference and achieving results through care that honors the whole person. The key is creating an environment with countless enriching touchstones to the inner person through facilities that are filled with art, animal companions, music, dance, books, laughter, and wholesome food. It is an approach that embraces creative and artistic processes to shape a more loving, spiritual approach for elders and their families.

Ruth Dennis has worked in mental health, the arts, and community education for over twenty-five years. She is a Certified Dementia Practitioner and, for the past two decades, has worked closely with palliative care, hospice, and grief support. Central to Ruth’s life is her role as caregiver to her brother Morgan, who has Down Syndrome. He is the bravest man she has ever known.

Velma Arellano: MA, CDP, CALA, Director of Operations, Velma Arellano has been working in elder care for the past 2 decades, and is the longest standing administrator in Santa Fe. She has overseen $2 million in construction and design to create two state of the art, intentional Alzheimer’s Care homes in New Mexico, and very recently acquired a third, non-Alzheimer’s, 14 bed, cozy, Assisted Living Bungalow in Santa Fe. The latter, Vista Hermosa is drawing on the cutting edge of culture change by incorporating the ideas of permaculture with elder care. Both Memory Care homes are the only two Eden Alternative Registered homes in New Mexico, and Vista Hermosa is well on its way. Eden Alternative is the honor society of long-term care, and is an International Movement which truly changes the culture of how we care for our elders. Velma introduced “real” pets to our homes for elders to enjoy, goats, chickens, peacocks, and recently a 10-week-old German Sheppard puppy named Silver.

Ms. Arellano is a certified assisted living administrator (CALA), Certified Dementia Practitioner through the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioners (NCCDP), and an Eden Alternative Associate. Velma has served on the board of Directors of the New Mexico Alzheimer’s Association and was only one 7 citizens who started the first Annual Walk to End Alzheimer’s in Santa Fe, Espanola, and Los Alamos. She is a member of the 305th annual Fiesta’s de Santa Fe Council and was instrumental in the legislative passage of Helen’s Law. This law protects endangered elders, which eventually gave attention to the Silver Alert Program, like Amber Alert, but for memory impaired adults. Ms. Arellano is also a member of the National Biodynamic Association (Tierra Viva) and the Earth Citizens Organization (ECO) and is committed to mindful living and a sustainable world. Velma is active with Shim-Sung, Brain Yoga. Shim meaning heart, and Sung meaning open.
Ms. Arellano holds a Masters Degree in Agency Counseling and Psychology from New Mexico Highlands University and Bachelor’s Degree in Television Broadcast Journalism/ Mass Communication and Spanish.

As a volunteer, Velma is a member of the New Mexico Health Care Association and NM Assisted Living Task Force Committee (NMHCAALF). She sits at the table making her voice heard in guiding NMHCAALF’s advocacy in the New Mexico long-term care delivery system.  She helps identify and establish policies and provide resources that give people a real opportunity to improve the quality of life and quality of care in New Mexico’s frail elderly and intellectually-disabled populations.

Luke Nachtrab: Vista Living OwnerLuke Nachtrab, is a father of three children (Joey, Kate and Molly) and married to his lovely wife Kara. They currently live in Sylvania, OH where they were both raised and where Vista Living Home Office is based. He started his career shortly after completing his undergraduate degree at The Ohio State University.  As first employee of Northaven, the Nachtrab Family Business Management Company, Luke created an infrastructure to manage approximately 75 residential properties in the Toledo, OH area.  Assuming operations of Vista Living, the family assisted living facilities in 2004 (www.vistaliving.com) his passion and love for the elderly, particularly those walking with forgetfulness, and their families began to flourish.  He was named President of Vista Living Communities in 2011 where he utilizes his background to maintain the highest standards of care for those with Alzheimer’s. Moving his young family to Santa Fe for 4 months in 2014 he began to set the company up for growth. His passion for this business and making a positive impact on those with dementia and their families is evident in his approach and philosophies. Using values taught by his parents he brings integrity and compassion to business.   With this as a guide he operates VLC as a business second; always trying to do what is right despite potential impact on the business.

Luke has a wide a diverse business background being intimately involved in executive leadership with global internet businesses, restaurants, real estate and logistics.  He has been on numerous organizational boards in the Toledo area.  He currently serves on the St John’s Jesuit High School Board and Finance Committee.  Engaging with the Industry he is also active on Argentum, panels on their mission to expand senior living.

Continuously improving, Luke has completed many non-degree courses in the last 15 years and in 2011 completed his MBA from the University of Michigan Ross School of Business.  He is an instrument rated pilot, loves skiing, golfing, soccer, squash, fishing, culture, traveling, watching The Buckeye’s and being Dad! He looks forward to raising his children to someday be involved with the business.

Find Mindful Dementia Care Online:

Goodreads:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/44643108-mindful-dementia-care

Website:

https://www.mindfuldementiacare.com/

Amazon Link:
https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Dementia-Care-Alzheimers-Forest-ebook/dp/B07NXV95TT/?tag=wowwomenonwri-20

I urge all my friends and followers to read this book. It has some very important information about love and caregiving in it.

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